Have you ever been inspired to love deeper because of a movie?
Love Before Marriage
My husband and I were really great friends for five years before he asked me to try dating. Despite my dire fear of loving my favorite person in the world, I took that step. It was logical for him and a leap of faith for me. Did I already love him? Yes. Was it romantic? No. As he heard my concerns continuing through the first six months of our relationship (filled with adventures, travel, long talks about everything, worship of the Lord together, new music, and most importantly: putting God first), he did everything he could to show me what love really is.
We always want that fairy tale romance, don’t we?! That instant spark, eyes meet across the room, and BAM you’re in love. You can remember the first moment you fell in love. It’s crazy and amazing and full on fairy tale love. That’s what I wanted. Is it realistic? Maybe for some. But is it real? Is fairy tale love real? I looked back on my loves in the past, I loved them deeply, but somewhere along the way, those people forgot to love me back. I still had this idea that fairy tale love was the only real love.
My husband communicated how he feels about love through the music and movies he shared with me. The first movie that ever deeply touched my heart is War Room.
I won’t be doing a War Room Movie review at this time. Here’s what I can say about the movie: It opened my eyes to what I have come to know as REAL love.
Official Synopsis: With great jobs, a beautiful daughter (Alena Pitts) and a dream house, the Jordans seem to have it all. Appearances can be deceiving, however, as husband Tony (T.C. Stallings) flirts with temptation and wife Elizabeth (Priscilla Shirer) becomes increasingly bitter, crumbling under the strain of a failing marriage. Their lives take an unexpected turn for the better when Elizabeth meets her newest client, Miss Clara (Karen Abercrombie), who encourages the couple to find happiness through prayer.
My Quick Note: Originally released in 2015, it got “bad reviews,” yet made $74 million. Alex Kendrick and Stephen Kendrick created something that really hit deep into broken hearts everywhere. This movie touched a lot of people. This woman battled alone through agony, betrayal, and realizing that her husband did not love her back.
So, right off the bat let me say, I’m a total cry baby. Yep, I cry so easily. God has blessed me with a soft heart. However, I honestly cried in nearly every scene of this movie. It moved me beyond anything I ever thought a movie could do for me. She never stopped praying and she never stopped loving him. That’s real. It moved to even think that maybe, what I thought was love before, just wasn’t. I spent five years with my high school sweetheart, eight years with my best friend in my 20s, and then five years with a man who took me by surprise and now I was questioning if I ever truly loved them. They were abusive, manipulative, and yes, often unfaithful. I did love each of those men. Just, it wasn’t true love. It was only as deep as it could go, it wasn’t love to the core.
Do you know why my love had to end for them? Because, I didn’t have God in my life. He is the key to real love. God is Love.
A Fireproof Movie Review will come later. Another movie about feeling your marriage slip away as your spouse shows they no longer love his or her partner.
Official Synopsis: In the wake of his daring rescue of a complete stranger, decorated firefighter Caleb Holt (Kirk Cameron) realizes the extent to which he has failed as a husband. In a desperate attempt to save his relationship with his wife, Catherine (Erin Bethea), Holt turns to “The Love Dare,” a Christian self-help book. At the prompting of his devout father, John (Harris Malcom) — and guided by the book itself — Holt embarks on a 40-day mission to rescue his marriage from the looming specter of divorce.
My Quick Note: A firefighters realizes how much at fault he is that his marriage is dissipating. He turns to The Love Dare. It doesn’t always go well for him. Caleb is essentially asking himself “How can I save my marriage?” maybe even he has looked up 10 ways to save your marriage (I can admit I’ve done it).
As my (now) husband showed me these movies. He did something incredible, he watched me watch the movie. He gave me this depth of love before I even accepted this type of love.
Maybe I should call this the Fireproof Love Dare Challenge or The Love Dare Blog? I found the book when I was traveling. During the first six months of us dating we traveled through 22 states and stumbled upon a thrift store in Alabama. It was called Vapor Thrift Store. I picked up my copy of “The Love Dare” and thought some I’d check out. This is my second time going through the 40 day Love Dare challenge. If you’re asking yourself “Can I save my marriage alone?” the answer is no. This book might not save your marriage, but it will certainly teach you how to love better. By reading the Love Dare Book, my husband was able to open up to me in a way he hadn’t before. Learning to love deeper, better, and stronger was such a huge blessing. Praise God that He led us to this thrift shop and I was able to zone in on it.
The Love Dare Journal
So, here we go. This will be my second time around doing the Love Dare. I can say that there are days that are harder than others. I chose to do the Love Dare the first time because I wanted to become better at loving my husband. The Love Dare this time around is to re-instill its lessons and live it more. Welcome to my Love Dare journal.